What is A Love Language
What makes you feel loved? Is it a spontaneous date night? Your partner doing the dishes? Or them telling them how much they love you? The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts is a New York Times bestselling book by Gary Chapman that explores how individuals effectively receive different forms of love and affection. It has led many people, including myself, down a path of self-discovery in order to become better lovers and friends.
The five love languages are: acts of service, physical touch, receiving gifts, words of affirmation, and quality time.
Why Knowing Your Love Language is Important in Dating
Knowing your own love language as well as your significant other’s is important for improving your relationship and how you communicate with each other. For someone whose dominant love language is acts of service, physical touch may be nice, but not as effective for them in how they receive and acknowledge love. Because physical touch is a dominant love language for me, receiving gifts is appreciated, but doesn’t connect with me as effectively.
If you’ve ever experienced a rift in your relationship or have had miscommunication with your significant other, consider taking the love language quiz and studying what the two of you can do to better support each other by your love languages. This leads to deeper connection and introspection.
How To Find Out Your Love Language
My top two love languages are physical touch and words of affirmation. When it comes to how I prefer to be shown love (at least by my husband), I am always down for some PDA (public display of affection) in the form of hand holding, kissing, hugging, or just sitting close enough to each other to feel each other’s warmth. I also enjoy hearing words that affirm me as a wife, a mother, and as a friend—things like “I’m proud of you”, “We appreciate you”, and “You’re beautiful”.
If you’d like to find out your own love language for free, click here.